In relation to emotions, I've been wondering what way is the best to respond to them. There seems to be two schools of thought in my life on this topic.
- Experience each emotion as it comes, good and bad, just let them consume you.
- Ignore bad emotions completely, shun them, push them away entirely.
Problem with #1: Like the quote above states, this leaves a person at the mercy of one's emotions. That may work if you never have to interact with others but it's difficult to be a part of a society if you have no idea what your emotional state may be at a given instant.
Problem with #2: A person attempting this drastically increases the risk of becoming numb, of essentially turning off a range of their humanity. The saddest part is, without the bad, the experience of the good is decreased. Loving is harder, joy is lessened, and life becomes blah itself.
Acquired from discoveries of late, I've learned that I quite agree with Mr. Wilde's sentiments. I want to use my emotions - enjoy them - dominate them. To do this, I think I'll practice a balance of the two strategies I've discussed here as well look into new approaches to embracing the emotional struggle that is being human.
Good luck to all of you out there doing the same!
I've come to realize in my old age that emotions aren't necessarily good or bad, it's what you do with the emotions that's what's good or bad. If you are angry and take it out on other people or things then anger is bad. If you are angry and you use that anger to correct a wrong then anger isn't bad. I think Mr. Wilde has it right. It is important to become the master of your emotions. To use them to help and not hurt.
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